Coming out vs. coming in
"Coming in" is to think about inviting or allowing someone to "come in" to your life.
Today I am thinking of a different framework to experiencing authenticity and liberation, coined by Sekneh Hammoud-Beckett, a scholar and therapist of Lebanese Muslim ancestry.
Instead of coming out and all its attendant pressure, "coming in" is to think about inviting or allowing someone to "come in" to your life. Hospitable sharing gives you the choice to disclose to who you feel safe with, when you are ready.
You have a rich inner world.
It isn't some 'closet.'
It's sacred.
See also Coming Out or Inviting In?, by writer/poet and activist Darnell L. Moore.
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Liy is a Southeast Asian Muslim knowledge worker and poet sharing their lifelong learning from the imperial periphery. If you're new here (hello!) or need a refresher, start here for house rules. Here I maintain curated lists as a love language for others. Now is my present-day context including from my 5-year old note system. Consider subscribing for free to login and leave comments— I write slowly and send out emails rarely. If you valued what I made, tell me over DM (if we know each other) or tip me with a message— that sends a clear signal of appreciation ✨
